I Can’t Eat Your Cake

I have a serious question. I sincerely need help understanding why I can’t have my cake and eat it too. What am I supposed to do with the cake? Just look at it? I’m inclined to think not.

Everyone has a different flavor palette, so maybe whoever thought of this saying didn’t like cake. That’s fine. I wholeheartedly believe that not everyone likes cake. Some people prefer cookies or pies. Even to those, I think my logic still applies. Why would I have what I desire and not want to consume it?

Could this “have your cake and eat it too” be an indictment of gluttonous behaviors? Gluttony is all about greed and over consumption. What if I only want to eat a reasonable share of my proverbial cake. Some of us may only like it by the sliver; whereas, others gorge on it by the pound. This spectrum of partaking in sinful delights shouldn’t ban the reasonable indulgences. Should it?

Maybe variety matters. Each kind of cake possesses it’s own unique blend of tastes and aromas that seduce the mind. Hey… which one did you just think about??? I swear I can almost smell a three layer chocolate on chocolate cake. Still warm. Freshly baked. *Sigh* Soooo why wouldn’t I want to eat that? Or a Sock-It-To-Me cake made in a bundt pan with a perfect cinnamon ribbon running through it. You smell that? Umm, cinnamon. If comfort had a flavor, it could be either of those for me.

If talking (actually typing) about cakes makes my olfactory senses leap for joy then why must I deprive my tongue such sweet savors. Two of my senses have already fallen victim; my hands and my mouth are sure to fulfill the desires of my eyes. Is that wrong?

Let’s just say for argument’s sake that it’s not someone else’s cake. It’s mine. All mine. I invested time, money, and lustful feelings into possessing it all for myself. I don’t think that I would do that if I had no intention of getting the most out of it. That was the whole point of making the cake. Pleasures. Indulgences.

I do understand that this “have your cake and eat it too” mantra conveys a sentiment against wanting more than your fair share. I realize that I cannot eat my cake, lick my fingers and then expect someone else to give me theirs. That would be unfair and inequitable. I must fully accept that when my cake is gone it is gone for good. I must consume it prudently. Whether I heed that advice or not is my choice. I alone will have to live with the consequences. These are the guidelines for being able to have it and then eat it. If I scarf mine down and then take yours that’s called greed. Double standards. Thievery.

It could be said that the reversal of the quote makes more sense. “You cannot eat your cake and still have it.” So, I can’t have it both ways. Either I will eat my cake or keep my cake. I cannot create a double standard by trying to eat it and keep it too. Again, that is unjust, because others comply with the moral code of adhering to social norms uniformly. I don’t get to be so special that I can devour my cake, regurgitate it, and then eat it again, because by all rules that’s gross. Barbaric. Animalistic.

I guess in the end, I can have my cake and eat it too. I simply have to be mindful of my consumption, because once it’s gone I cannot devise schemes to get more than my share. In other words, I can’t have my cake and eat yours too!

Yay!! My oven timer just went off!

Author: Fuzz

I have many titles and many names. They all genuinely represent aspects of my character, public, and private self. My life's work has consisted of legal and accounting services. My heart's passion is teaching college students how to critically think in order to navigate a world with too many options. This platform is for my creative self. I have been writing stories since I could hold a pencil. My personal philosophies and beliefs have evolved into isms that I live by. I was also a photographer for many, many years. I mainly did portraits, but I do not enjoy it anymore. Now I love to color! All the "artwork" are my digital coloring book creations. Be true. Be authentic. Live your philosophies. I am Fuzz.

6 thoughts on “I Can’t Eat Your Cake”

  1. I got quite a few chuckles reading [line by 👨‍🍳 line] of your take on a very old adage. I’ll be 62 in October. My beloved foster mother that raised me used to say this ‘have your cake..’ one and quite a few others. I even wrote about this one on my blog.

    It’s important still in 2017. I know it helped me when I ran away years ago [after she had a stroke and they wanted to move us to new foster home], and still does.

    I love cake by the way, as long as it’s fresh. Bundt cake is my favorite. Makes me think of my beloved mother who saved me from my young self; mostly out of the kitchen!

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    1. Oh Sparkyjen! Thank you for reading it! I’m so glad it made you smile and think of the things that have brought you joy and comfort💜.

      This proverbial saying has meant different things at for me at different times. It has always been a good reminder to be mindful about not infringing on others because of our own greed. Not creating a separate set of rules for our behavior. I’m 47 now, so it literally means I want to eat my whole chocolate cake!! 😂 By myself🤣 and I think I found a way to justify it 🤷🏽‍♀️

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  2. I just read this. I like it, almost as much as I like cake. German Chocolate..mmmmm..Judging by your writing it is obvious you are an intelligent person and a wonderful weaver of fabricated tales. It seems to me that if you eat your cake, you will not have it anymore and that is where the inevitable “Eaters regret” comes in. I have a solution to this enigma that plagues many more than just you.
    You bake your cake. Then you cut your cake and share it with those around you. If you surround yourself with gratefully generous people, they will begin to bake cakes. They will cut and share their cake with the people around them, which will include you. As the cake baking extravaganza grows, you will find yourself with more cake than you can eat. From that moment on you will have your cake and the lustful pleasure of eating it too. Once that happens you can throw that old adage out the window and enjoy your cake.

    Have a Wonderful Day!

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    1. Aww…a fellow German Chocolate cake lover! Your advice is quite insightful. It allows me to have cake, share cake, and most importantly eat cake without the appearance of greed or eater’s regret! Bravo!! I will try this around the holidays and tell you how it goes!


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